I’m not sure how to say this, men. I know that our half of the species is a bunch of delicate flowers whose sensibilities are damaged by every mention of our flaws. But, this is important, and I want you to listen.
We have a problem. We have been in power- not individually but as a group- so long that we’ve forgotten that other people have problems we don’t face. And by forgetting that, it becomes difficult to see our role in causing those problems.
I am talking about the second class citizen status women effectively have. Legally and culturally. We have laws on the books that limit a woman’s right to bodily autonomy. Do you know what would happen if someone brought up limiting men’s bodily autonomy, not to make a point but in earnest?
We would have riots all over the nation if that thing even looked like it might pass. And yet… we allow our representatives to debate a woman’s right to do what she wants with her own body like we have more at stake than she does.
As to culturally? We have a situation where a sexual assault occurs an average of once every 2 minutes in the U.S. alone, where psychological studies show that rape is more likely to be committed by men who think other men rape when they have the chance, and we have a cultural idiom about sex that makes it seem like straight men are winning victories over women every time they have sex.
Before you object, I know: most men are decent human beings who would never commit rape. But if we don’t protest loudly every time someone jokes about rape or implies that someone deserves to be raped, we are seen to be approving rape by potential rapists.
And that should be such a blow to our sensibilities that we never waver in opposing rape culture.